Breaking the “Good Girl” Rules: Why Perfection is Poison

There’s this sneaky little spell we’ve all been under.It whispers: be the good wife, be the good mom, be the good girl.

Smile politely. Keep the house spotless. Don’t raise your voice. Don’t be “too much.” Sacrifice your needs for the greater good. Keep an organized 'to-do' list:

Sound familiar? Yeah, me too.

Here’s the thing: that script was never written for your joy. It was designed to keep you tame, compliant, and endlessly striving for a gold star that doesn’t even exist.

And what happens when you live by it? You end up exhausted, brittle, and secretly screaming into your pillow at night while still asking yourself, Why can’t I just get it right?

Let me say it plain:

✨ Perfection is poison.

✨ Martyrdom is not for domestication.

✨ And sainthood at the expense of your sanity is a curse, not a calling.

The truth? You’re not failing. You’re a Badass under the spell of perfection.

So what do we do when a spell is cast?

We break it.

Here’s my invitation:

Badassery = Freedom

• Stop apologizing for the mess (mess = life).

• Say no more often: especially when the world expects you to say yes.

• Take off the halo and admit that you want pleasure, freedom, laughter, and sleep more than you worry.

  
  

Because good-girl-roles never feed your soul. Desire will.

So burn the “saintly” script. Write your own. One where you’re not a servant—you’re a wildly romantic rebel, messy and magnificent, perfectly human.

🔥 Ready to break the spell of perfection? Join the next Badassery Selfcare Challenge—a soulful sanctuary where we don’t worship halos, we light bonfires with them.”