Burned Out or Badass? Why Your “Self-Care” Feels Like Another Job

Lorran Wild
Sep 2
2 min read

🔥 Babe, let’s get brutally honest: you’re not just burned out—you’re charbroiled to a crisp. And the trendy answer? Drink kale juice, get into a pretzel-pose, and light a rainbow candle while chanting affirmations (out of tune?!). 🙄

Here’s the problem:

if your self-care feels like punishment, it’s not care—it’s a guilt trip in disguise.

If it gives you relief from the chaos but zero pleasure?

That’s not self-care, that’s a survival hustle.

And if you’re still running on fumes after your “care” routine? Welcome to the burnout loop.

Sound familiar? Yeah, I thought so.

Why We Keep Falling for Fake Self-Care

Culture sells us the idea that self-care should look productive, polished, and Instagram-worthy. The perfect smoothie bowl. The flawless skincare routine. The yoga pose with a golden sunrise backdrop.

But guess what? When self-care becomes another should, it stops feeding you. It becomes a performance. And deep down, your body knows.

Because true care isn’t about ticking boxes—it’s about feeding your flow-state.

The Secret Ingredient You’re Missing: Desire

Desire is the difference between “meh” and magic.It’s the spark that makes your body feel alive, your heart feel playful, and your spirit feel powerful.

When your self-care honors what you actually crave—not what the wellness industry tells you—you stop hustling for survival and start fueling for joy.

So… How Do You Find the Real Thing?

👉 By experimenting. By flirting with life. By discovering what kind of self-care actually turns you on (not just tunes you out).

That’s exactly why I created the 3-Day Selfcare Challenge. It’s not about facials or grass-juice. It’s about small, powerful rituals that reconnect you to pleasure, energy, and your badass self.