DAY 3: The Tarantalla — Why a Planned Tantrum Is Powerful Self-Care

Lorran Wild
Nov 21
3 min read

Day 3 of the 12 Bite-Size Badass Self-Care Rituals

Let’s Empower: Some days your body doesn’t need serenity, or a bubble bath.

Some days your body needs a TANTRUM.

A real one. A loud one. A wild, messy, beautifully honest one.

Welcome to Day 3 of my 12-day self-care ritual series—Today’s ritual is called The Tarantalla, and she is the unapologetic goddess of cathartic release.

The Tarantalla comes from an old folk tradition meant to imitate the body in the throes of being “bitten.” Similarly, a tantrum—etymologically—comes from words meaning a gust of passion. And yes, it even echoes the word Tantra—the sacred weaving of raw sensation into embodied truth.

This Meliora-Designed Ritual is for the part of you that’s been holding too much for too long.

What is the Tarantalla Ritual?

This Tarantalla is simple: a structured, intentional practice where you allow your body to express anger, frustration, irritation, or emotional pressure through movement.

It is not destructive. It is not dangerous. And it is absolutely not childish.

It is somatic intelligence in action.

By giving your inner storm a safe outlet, you let your emotions metabolize instead of calcifying inside the body.

This ritual invites you to:

Feel the uprising of revolt, anger, or injustice
Move in a way that expresses that truth
Let the body shake loose whatever is beneath the fury
Witness the wisdom that emerges after the storm

This is emotional alchemy.This is body-based self-care.

This is the sacred art of losing your shit in a way that heals you.

How to Do the Tarantalla

I recorded a full demonstration that you can watch, but here are the essentials:

1. Choose Your Song

Pick a song that hits you right in the frustration. Something with a beat or lyric that echoes what your body already wants to say.

(If you want a shortcut, you can borrow my Spotify playlist Dance Fury, curated specifically for tantrums and rage-shakes.)

2. Give Yourself Permission

This is not about performance. This is permission-based, authenticity-first movement.

You might:

Pound a pillow
Air-punch
Growl
Stomp
Shake
Let your hair fly
Or simply tremble with intensity

Channel your inner Kali — fierce, honest, uncompromising.

3. Move the Emotion, Don’t Judge It

Let the anger rise. Let the tears come if they need to. Let your breath get loud.

You’re not going to plan out some kind of revenge fantasy.

You’re simply making space and time for your body to metabolize emotions.

4. Let the Wisdom Emerge

Underneath the anger, there is always something else.

Sometimes grief. Sometimes exhaustion. Sometimes clarity. Sometimes a decision or boundary that finally snaps into focus.

That’s the gold of this ritual.

5. Land Gently

Hydrate. Breathe. Feel the radiance that follows release.

Your body knows exactly what to do when it doesn’t have to pretend.

Why a Planned Tantrum Is Legitimate Self-Care

Because your anger is not a problem to fix—it’s information.

Anger shows you:

What matters
Where your boundaries are
What has been too tight for too long
Where something needs to change
What your soul refuses to tolerate

Suppressing it leads to burnout, resentment, and emotional numbness.

Expressing it safely leads to:

✨ Emotional clarity

✨ Nervous system release

✨ Strengthened boundaries

✨ Increased vitality

✨ A feeling of coming home to yourself

The Tarantalla is self-care for the woman who’s tired of being the calm one, the nice one, the responsible one, the peacekeeper.

This is self-care for your wild side—the part of you that tells the truth.

Watch the Day 3 Demonstration

I recorded my own Tarantalla tantrum to show you how real, messy,

and radiant this ritual can be.

(Yes, there’s howling. Yes, there’s sweating. Yes, I absolutely asked myself, “Was I yelling?”)

You can watch the full demonstration on YouTube

Want All 12 Self-Care Rituals?

You can download the entire set of 12 rituals for FREE: 12-Selfcare Rituals (bite-size)

They’re bite-sized, body-based, and designed to help you reconnect with your truth, your emotions, and your badass self.

Cheers to Your Wild Side

Your emotions are not too much. Your anger is not wrong.

Your body is wise. And your wildness is beautiful.

May today’s tantrum make room for the clarity you’ve been waiting for.